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5 Stages Of A Man’s Life (3rd Stage Wounded Warrior)

Jewish People Believe There Are 5 Stages to A Person’s Life in fulfilling God’s purpose and plan for your life. Which Stage are you in?

Wounded Warrior Stage – I think this is an interesting stage. I was thinking of all the times I have been hurt in the martial arts. I used to do a lot of karate tournaments. At one of the tournaments, I had won my black belt weight division. At that time, I was fighting in the middle weight division which was 159lbs to 179lbs. If you won your division, you were eligible to fight for Grand Championship. In that division you fight the winners from other black belt divisions. The other divisions included light weight which is 158lbs & under, heavy weight division, which is 180lbs to 200lbs, and super heavy weight division which was 201lbs and up. 

My first match was against the super heavy weight division winner. He was a Marine and he weighed 230lbs. He was a BIG boy!

I knew I was quicker and so I knew I would need to use my speed to beat him. I was ahead on points 4 to 1. I made a mistake as I dodged one of his punches. I ducked to come up and throw a left hook. Well, he caught me first in the nose. Which I felt and heard my nose break. They stopped the fight and looked at my nose which was setting off to the side of my face and clearly broken.

They disqualified my opponent for excessive contact. (In karate we were not going full contact, this was point fighting meaning you can land kicks and punches with control and whoever landed the first punch or kick would win a point and the first competitor to win 5 points would win the match. And if you caused blood, bruising, or breakage you would be disqualified.) 

So, I won my first match by disqualification due to my deformed and broken nose. But I still had to fight one more fight to win the Grand Championship. The heavy weight beat the light weight so, I was paired up against the heavy weight for the finals for the Grand Championship. I should of being going to the hospital to have my nose put back in place, but I could not leave because I wanted to win and be the Grand Champion. So, I fought the heavy weight with my broken nose. It was a great fight. I won the by the score of 5 to 2 points. 

The reason I told you this story is when you are a warrior you will get wounded. 

One day while I was thinking about this stage. God said a lot of my children get stuck in the wounded warrior stage. He told me that sometimes we get hit by friendly fire. Friendly fire is a hurt coming from someone we love or another Christian that hurts you. And God told me the reason people get stuck here is because they do not forgive the person that wounded them. I have been in this stage before. I have had family, friends (both Christian and not) that have hurt me. And it feels like a betrayal, especially from family both blood and Christian. And it is important that we choose to forgive them, that does not mean we allow them to keep hurting us, but we must forgive them because God forgave us. I also realized that if we do not forgive it makes us angry and we carry a chip on our shoulders which is very heavy. I learned when I chose to forgive and allowed God to help forgive that person. The heavy chip was lifted form my shoulder and I was not angry anymore. Sometimes it took a while for me to forgive that person. But I kept choosing to forgive and giving it to God.  Mark 11:25 “And when you stand praying, forgive, if you have ought against any that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”

I have also hurt friends and family, sometimes knowingly and sometimes unknowingly. I think that when we have wronged someone that we need to go and say we are sorry and make it right. Matt 5:23-24 “Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar and remember that your brother has something against you go your way; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.”


Brian Bryan 

CEO Combat Team Ministry